Monthly Archives: April 2011

Sweet as Candy

I could just love on this sweet baby all day. Oh wait, I do. She may be a high maintenance little gal at times, but she sure is delicious. First thing in the morning, I feel so happy when I look over and realize that I get another day with this sweetie. I mean really, […]

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E - April 30, 2011 - 4:10 am

She sure is adorable – but all your kids are. I hope to meet her soon! Lady are you sleeping? Blogging in the middle of the night? I can hardly keep up with all of your posts lately! I’m not complaining – just impressed. I love the “real ladies” series and your pictures of course. Keep them coming!

kara - April 30, 2011 - 8:26 am

I am sleeping sort of :). Oh and just so you know that I’m not crazy (well at least in this way :)), I think that I set this to publish at a weird hour, but I didn’t write it at a weird hour :). The blogging has been fun, because it usually only takes 10-15 minutes to do most posts, and that is about the length of the breaks I get these days :). I have looooved your most recent updates and announcement :). I hope you are feeling better. Oh, and I may have to interview awesome moms who used to live in Benton County as well :).

adrienne w - April 30, 2011 - 9:44 am

Oh, wow! She’s getting even cuter, if that’s possible!! I’m glad you can appreciate her, even with all the attention she requires. I hope you can get more breaks and some good sleep!!

“All I can do is keep breathing”

I think that I have mentioned before that I love Pandora. Seriously… I feel like Pandora knows me like a best friend sometimes. Chris was an amazing birth coach this last labor and delivery, but did you know that Pandora at one point acted as my doula? Let me explain. At the hospital, Chris turned […]

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sam - April 29, 2011 - 10:30 am

what a beautiful song… was this last one totally natural? I’m thinking about it with this one… did you do hyponobirthing?

kara - April 29, 2011 - 12:53 pm

I did do it all natural again. I didn’t do hypno birthing. I read the Bradley Method book. I wouldn’t say I follow a method at all, but that book was helpful. Wait, so you are pregnant right now???? If so, congrats.. that is so exciting!! Let me know if you want to chat more about birth sometime :).

Parents, don’t dress your girls like tramps

(Look at this adorable, sweet, smart, bright, and INNOCENT little girl) Okay, I would really really appreciate if you would all take 5 minutes to go and read this article. Like pretty please with a cherry on top?? I am dying to know what all of you think about this? I made a post similar […]

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nancy - April 28, 2011 - 8:50 am

I can’t comment beyond “I agree 100%” because the thought of 5 year old girls wearing bras is making me physically ill, and don’t even get me started on “juicy couture”… My nieces (8&9 yrs) were wearing short shorts with “juicy” printed across their rear ends last time I saw them, and I don’t know what planet my SIL is living on if she doesn’t see the inappropriateness there… ick ick ick

adrienne w - April 28, 2011 - 8:52 am

I read this article about a week ago and I could not agree more. One of my pet peeves has always been little girls or babies in bikinis, because the bikini is such a sex symbol! I don’t know why parents think it’s cute to make their girls look like mini grown ups! Thankfully, it is possible to avoid it. Macartney has survived kindergarten without knowing who any of those pop star idols are or caring at all what they dress like. She is so oblivious to that kind of thing because we don’t expose her to it. Even when kids start school, while they are young, parents are still the biggest influence in their lives, so why not use that time to shelter them from those kind of examples?

kara - April 28, 2011 - 9:13 am

Here are facebook comments in case some of you aren’t on there with me!!

Shannon I am right there with ya, Mama! :)

Afton Muir I’ll join you on that soap box Kara, shouting till I’m blue in the face. Let our little girls and boys be LITTLE!

Adrienne Wigg- Amen, sista!

leonne bannister - April 28, 2011 - 9:26 am

I totally agree with you, Kara (and the other comments.) It seems as though as Olivia gets older some manner of defensive parenting is going to have to come into play. One in which I teach her how to think critically, yet I also sheild her from the absolute absurdity of wearing a thong at 10 years old.

Leah - April 28, 2011 - 9:59 am

I read the same article the other day and totally agree! Speak with your pocketbooks mamas!

Angeli - April 28, 2011 - 10:31 am

I’m so thrilled to see someone stepping up and saying this outright! I saw it reposted on facebook by about six different friends (and bear in mind, I’m no facebook maven) and I love that it’s getting around. We started talking about modesty when Clara was three, and we’ve kept it a common topic. It’s been hard, because Clara would love them, but we don’t have Barbies in the house, and she knows it’s because we don’t like their unrealistic body shape and re clothes aren’t modest. I don’t know what’s goon to happen when she gets older – maybe she will want to rebel by wearing “sexy” clothes, but we’re starting the dialogue now. She’s going to know what message she send by wearing those things, and she’s going to know why we think it’s false and harmful. Her dad is totally involved, too, which I think is going to have a major impact.

Amanda - April 28, 2011 - 10:43 am

I couldn’t agree more! Baby bikinis drive me out of my mind, but I hadn’t heard about the A&F push up bras. Disgusting! There is a big difference between being naive and keeping your little girl in age-appropriate clothing. Sofia is lucky to have you looking out for her interests!

Michelle - April 28, 2011 - 11:54 am

My favorite line by far:

“The way I see it, my son can go to therapy later if my strict rules have scarred him. But I have peace knowing he’ll be able to afford therapy as an adult because I didn’t allow him to wear or do whatever he wanted as a kid.”

kara - April 28, 2011 - 1:58 pm

Ooh… I seriously just got all pumped up reading all of your comments. It makes me want all of us to get together and picket in front of Abercrombie :). Like Leah said, though, your pocketbook speaks. What we spend our money on shows what we value. But seriously… where is the closest abercrombie to Corvallis :)???

Amanda O. - April 28, 2011 - 3:08 pm

I also agree with you and the article.. I don’t consider myself overly conservative but recently had this same conversation with my sister about little girls involved in dance classes/competitions where they wear globs of make-up, skimpy outfits, fake eye lashes, have fake tans etc. We both agreed that it’s just not appropriate. I’m a bit on the fence regarding bikinis… I think some 2 piece swim suits are appropriate- definitely easier for girls to use the restroom etc., but as far as the skimpy ones and which just allow for more sun burns etc- don’t think its a great idea. Besides, I wouldn’t want some pervy old man checking out my little one.

Rachel - April 28, 2011 - 7:30 pm

Yeah, and what is with the Bratz dolls? I saw that Ty has a Bratz type doll at Toy Factory that seems a little better, but if you look at the adjectives in front of their names (like Sizzlin Sue) they don’t have anything to do with ability or personality. They are about appearance. Uck. I get mad that places (like Toy Factory) carry 4 girl outfits for every boy outfit, but I guess you pay for it later.

Wendy M - April 28, 2011 - 7:38 pm

I am also against “sexy” clothing for little ones, but I honestly don’t have a problem with a bikini on a little girl. I think there is something wrong with society if they see anything sexual about a little girl in a two-piece. This is my opinion (so please don’t attack me!) but I want my daughter to have the experience of being free and comfortable in her own skin before society convinces her that her body isn’t good enough to wear one.

adrienne w - April 28, 2011 - 8:02 pm

Just to clarify my opinion on bikinis… I don’t think that parents think of it as a sex symbol when they put their little girls in them. I realize that is not how they are seeing it. But historically I think the bikini has been considered a sex symbol. And I think that it makes it harder to transition later. I feel really uncomfortable at the pool or the beach when I see young teenage or pre teen girls in skimpy bikinis, because I know there are definitely sick people out there who find that appealing. So I think intentionally or unintentionally, it perpetuates the sexualization of young girls. And I’m going to do everything I can to prevent that with my own daughters. I want my girls to know that being comfortable with your body does not mean you need to show more of it off.
I also think that a modest TANKini is totally appropriate and can be very practical.
Now don’t get me started on baby/toddler pageants… :)

adrienne w - April 28, 2011 - 8:07 pm

P.S. I definitely do NOT want to attack or judge other parents for the bikini thing. I get it. I just see it differently. Now I am done. Three posts are more than enough. I couldn’t figure out how to edit my last comment.

Claire - April 28, 2011 - 8:30 pm

I only have boys…so my main thing is trying to find clothing that doesn’t have violent pictures or characters all over it. What can’t boys clothes have nice things on them like plants/flowers too?

Amanda Nemelka - April 28, 2011 - 9:50 pm

I didn’t read all the comments first because…whoa…a lot of comments, so if I repeat something someone said…I’m sorry. You and I had this conversation a bit when I was there. I really think it starts young. I have friends who tell me I’m way too open with my kids about things, but I think there is a way to be open and honest with your kids and still make it age appropriate. I fully intend to talk with my daughter about WHY it is important to modest…even at a young age. Girls need to understand what message they are putting out there by dressing a certain way BEFORE they start doing it. They need to see a reason not to. It seems overboard, but I think it has to start young. I never thought about the tank-top issue until a friend brought it up. Sophie wears sleeveless things now, but it’s important to think at what age you don’t want this to happen. When is too old for your daughter to be wearing spaghetti straps? 6? 9? 12? And if you wait too long, it makes it harder to go back and say, “that was fine before, but now it’s not?”

I don’t know. Might sound extreme, but we know as parents that these kids pick up things at such a young age. We have to decide early on what we want to be projected to the world.

Rose - April 29, 2011 - 8:51 pm

Totally agree. It’s sad to see parents dress their girl in sexy outfit and consider it “cute”. What even more sickening is that the clothing company come out with that kind of product.

What do you want to be when you grow up?

Sofia: I want to be a gypsy. Me: Hmm.. that’s interesting, what exactly do gypsies do? Sofia: People pay them to come and sing, dance, and throw fun parades all of the time. Same question to Gabe Gabe: Probably a pony. Me: That’s a good one, but it may be a little tricky since you […]

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adrienne w - April 28, 2011 - 8:46 am

I love it! That is my favorite thing to talk about with my kids, because they come up with the greatest things. Macartney often says paleontologist and teacher and mom. Thatcher usually says a truck driver or construction worker, but a few times he’s said a police man, which kind of surprised me. I even still like to be asked that question! ;)

kara - April 28, 2011 - 1:50 pm

Oooh.. Adrienne, what DO you want to be when you grow up :)?? I am still trying to decide myself :).

adrienne w - April 28, 2011 - 8:03 pm

Depends on when you ask me. Is it still too late to become a dolphin trainer??

The Real Housewives of Benton County Presents: Afton Muir-Fostering Creativity in Young Children

Have any of you had the experience where you just quietly observe someone that you don’t know, and you can just tell that you would like them? I remember seeing Afton at the park or at the library before I knew her well, and she just radiated happiness and light. I could just tell that […]

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Angela - April 27, 2011 - 8:42 am

Thank you for such a wonderful article on one of my favorite people! Afton has changed my life so completely by sharing her life of creativity, craftiness, and fashion-sense. I love you, Afton!

Bonnie - April 27, 2011 - 1:12 pm

Kara you captured Afton so well, ever since I met Afton I have been inspired by her and her fun lifestyle. I agree with Afton about having an open schedule it’s something I need to work on. Love you both!!

Christina - April 27, 2011 - 2:43 pm

I feel like I want to move to Benton County – you know such cool people Kara!

kara - April 27, 2011 - 3:00 pm

You totally should move to Benton County :). You would fit right in :). I really am grateful to live in a place where there are so many good role models and nice people. I’m sure there are plenty of people not like that as well, but I seem to have surrounded myself with a lot!

candice ashment - April 27, 2011 - 9:25 pm

Kara, loved reading this! You are such a great writer! I loved reading about someone artsy also! Thanks!

You should enter your posts on!

kara - April 27, 2011 - 10:33 pm

Thanks Candice!!
I don’t know what is, but I am going to check it out!
Bye the way…. your art is amazing… how do you find time to do it???

Natalie Kawell - April 28, 2011 - 3:15 pm

Kara — such great questions and lovely things you said about Afton, and all so true. You definitely have a gift for writing and sharing the joy of people, as Afton has the gift of creativity and fun. I really enjoyed reading this, especially all the positive things that Afton said about being a mom and how beautiful family is. Loved it!

justine blide - April 30, 2011 - 3:05 pm

I love you afton!! keep up the good work!