Monthly Archives: September 2011

Gabe Update

If you know Gabe, then I am betting that these pictures made you smile. Gabe is such a little character. Here is the scoop on Gabe: Gabe is still loving preschool. People who are close to Gabe sometimes call him Gabey Baby. He informed me today that he just wants to be called Gabe, not […]

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Karli - September 30, 2011 - 5:07 pm

He looks SO much like Chris!

For the whining – I have a couple very persistent children. We haven’t figured out a way to stamp it out completely, but we have made progress. When a decision is made (by me), and the whining begins, (usually “why?!” or “why not?!”) I make sure to explain my reasoning to the best of my ability (which at times means, “because I just don’t want to right now.”). Once I feel I have given them a fair explanation, and the whining continues, I generally say, “I’ve given you my answer. It’s not going to change. If you continue whining, there will be consequences.” And if it continues, I impose those consequences (in our house, they lose tickets). That, of course, elevates the whining into a tantrum, but after a few rounds of that happening, they are starting to learn that I’m serious about the whining and it often subsides.

kara - October 1, 2011 - 10:10 pm

Karli,
Love your feedback. This is my problem. I really usually am good at being calm at first and matter of fact, but after 1/2 hour, I start getting really upset. I need to be more creative with consequences. When I put him in his room, he screams his head off for a long time. Taking away his show for the day makes him mad…I need to try that more. What are examples of consequences you use??

Ask Kara-How do I help my pushing/hitting toddler learn to interact with his/her peers?

I was chatting with a friend the other day who asked my advice about how to help her toddler (almost 2) who is aggressive with other kids. It’s been awhile since I’ve had a toddler, but I have to admit that both Sofia and Gabe went through ¬†hitting/pushing/toy stealing stages right before they turned two […]

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Amanda N. - September 28, 2011 - 11:03 pm

I have had to leave a few places due to naughty behavior. It’s difficult at times because it seems more like a punishment on the parent than the kid, but it works. The next time Chance started acting up, I simply said…”remember we had to leave Gigi’s house because…xyz”? — stopped him dead in his tracks.

Parenting is hard. And sometimes it’s a struggle to know what you’re doing because it takes time to see results.

Kara - September 28, 2011 - 11:14 pm

Amanda, this parenting gig is hard!!
Here are a couple of comments that I got on facebook too:
Jennifer said:
Another awesome article Kara and I can’t wait to check-out this series of books! While small children hitting small children can be common, I think it’s crucial to pay close attention to the duration. Meaning-if the behavior is sticking around past the “typical” age-range, it can be a red flag (not always of course but it can). Sometimes children hit because they have vestibular/spacial and even vision issues. Again, like so many others, hitting can be a sensory issue that often goes undetected and therefore can be a continual problem. BTW…I laughed so hard at your “poop flowers” comment! That was a good one! Thank you again for the fantastic information!

Jenn said:
another idea that may work for some and not others is something I did which was paired up with a mom in corvallis who has a daughter the same age as Maeby and who were both aggressive and we more or less let them figure it out with each other. We never let the aggressiveness go too far, but letting them wrestle and play rough with each other within some boundaries let them get it out of their system. It actually kept them from hitting or being aggressive with other kids because we could say “no, you save that for playtime with Lilly” and she’d stop. It could just be how things worked out for us, but sometimes letting kids kind of work it out (obviously without letting it go too far) helps them figure out a lot of other things too especially social skills and their own physical limitations.

juliette - October 1, 2011 - 8:21 pm

What? What was that lovely floral aroma in the bathroom this evening after my perfect daughter pooped (in the toilet, of course…she would just NEVER poop her pants!)

Sofia Update

As you can see, we are still struggling in the hair brushing department a little bit. I brush and do Sofia’s hair every day before school, but she usually messes up or takes out whatever I do. I have vague memories of doing the same thing when my mom did my hair, so I guess […]

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nancy - September 26, 2011 - 11:27 am

Aww. I go throught the same thing with Ruth – the hairbrushing frustration AND the I-miss-home-when-I’m-at-school. It’s such a strange feeling to be away from her all morning when we’ve been together pretty much 24/7 for four years.

Kara - September 27, 2011 - 7:16 pm

Glad there will be other rag-a-muffins running around this town :)

Gabe’s First day of Preschool

Gabe started his first day of preschool on Monday, and he loved it. He wanted me to stay with him for the first few minutes, but then he was totally fine with me leaving. Oh my gosh, he is totally eating up all of the attention he is getting from the high school students. I […]

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Chrissy - September 22, 2011 - 1:25 pm

Awesome!
How exciting~ Congrats to you both! :)

kara - September 22, 2011 - 7:24 pm

Thanks Chrissy. I know… so far it is win win for everyone :).

Wendy M. - September 23, 2011 - 5:53 am

So glad everyone is happy! It’s nice that you can have some one-on-one time with Miriam, too.

The Real Housewives of Benton County Present: State Representative Sara Gelser

I first heard about Sara Gelser from Chris when she was a member of the school board and he was teaching at Linus Pauling Middle School. Whether or not they were on the same side of an issue, Chris always admired Sara as a politician and person. Chris says that Sara is respectful, a good […]

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adrienne w - September 21, 2011 - 10:47 am

When I first started reading this interview I thought I wouldn’t be that interested, because I don’t live in your area (or country :) )and I’m not that interested in politics, but it was a great interview. I really appreciated a lot of what Sara had to say! I love when she said that how you lose is just as important as how you win. What a great thing to teach our kids!!

Camille - September 21, 2011 - 10:03 pm

I recognized the name, but this was great to hear more of Rep. Gelser’s story. I used to be more politically active in my teens and early 20s, but I’ve been feeling a little out of the loop in more recent years. I’m really glad to know that I have a good advocate and a good mom working on my behalf. Thanks, Sara and thanks to Kara for introducing her.