Monthly Archives: February 2012

Schedules/Routines

A couple of weeks ago I was chatting at swim lessons with another mom. She was poking fun at some new parent friends of theirs who left a dinner party at 7:00 to go and put their baby to sleep. She was reminiscing about how she remembers being an uptight first time parent who was […]

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Wendy M. - March 1, 2012 - 6:41 am

Good topic! I really believe scheduling or flexibility depends on the child. With Brenden we were rigid about his schedule when he was really young because he seemed to fall apart if he didn’t sleep at the same time every day/night. Allison was born more easy-going, so we became more flexible (although she’s still a 6-am-sharp kid, so both kids go to bed at 8pm.) As for the patience at night, we waited until Bren was in first grade to shift their bedtime from 7 to 8pm. By that time, he had a little homework. Now, it seems like with homework and reading, piano practice, showering and getting ready for school in the morning, the evening isn’t long enough!
I think the phase you are in right now seems endless while you are in it, but once you are through it you turn around and say, “that wasn’t so bad.” (Kind of like the diaper phase!)

Kim - March 1, 2012 - 6:48 am

I think routines are great! We have pretty established routines with our daughter too. When she was little I knew we could be out running errands from this time to this time and if we weren’t home by 11:30 I better have some snacks ready. If we aren’t home by 1:30 I better anticipate naptime grumpies. It helps with my anticipating what she needs. And when we are “off” for a family weekend away or special night out it’s easier to get her back on track too. Very early we started something that I LOVE now. We read a story every night at bed time. Tonight I read the story, Daddy snuggles for a few minutes after, says prayer, then does tuck in. Tomorrow morning I get up and do wake up, breakfast, dressing. Daddy will read story tomorrow night, I do snuggles, prayer, and tuck in. This way she is used to BOTH of us tucking her in separately so when one of us has a meeting she doesn’t melt at bedtime because Mommy’s not tucking her in. AND, I only have to be up super early and dressed for work before getting her up half the days of the week. Every-other Saturday I get to sleep as late as I want. And every-other Saturday she and I have special Silly Saturday pancake breakfast. Routines are WONDERFUL! Kids need structure. Someone recommended the book “Baby Wise” to us when I was pregnant. There’s some of it I don’t agree with and I wasn’t crazy about the next book in the series but it made a lot of good points about routines and how they are good for babies and kids because they know what to expect. It’s as much healthy for them as it is for us. I give that book as a gift to all my friends who are expecting.

Katrina - March 1, 2012 - 9:46 am

Bedtime and naptime are golden. It has to be something pretty important to shove them back very far. Unless it’s summertime. Summertime is golden, too. I’ve been made fun of for having dinner at 5:30, but I think it’s weird to not eat until 7:00 or later. I’m hungry, and so are my kids. And as for exciting, no that’s not how I’d describe my life… except maybe when my kids do something hilarious, or they start taking their first steps, saying their first sentences, reading their first words, etc. (Which isn’t every day, but it’s more exciting than a dinner party.)

adrienne w - March 1, 2012 - 1:03 pm

I definitely think that routine and structure are important. But I’m one of those parents that isn’t great at following it. I’m kind of a fly by the seat of my pants person. In some ways, that helps me a lot as a parent, because the unexpected doesn’t throw me off, but I know it’s something I’d like to improve on. We have routine, but it doesn’t always follow a strict schedule. As far as bedtime goes, I am DESPERATELY trying to get ours earlier. My aim for bedtime is between 7:30 and 8:00 for Macartney(7) and Thatcher(5) and to have the two littler girls in bed before that. But that never happens most of the time the 3 older kids are in bed by 8:30 (sometimes later, sadly) and I put the baby to bed after that. I’m lucky that all my kids are phenomenal sleepers who will sleep anywhere and through the night. In general, all the girls will sleep in if they were up late. Thatcher will not. He is a morning person and is up first everyday, but usually no earlier than 7:00. Don’t get me wrong- I know sleep is very important. I’m just lucky that my kids are incredibly flexible, which gives our family a lot of flexibility. As first time parents, we made sure Macartney could sleep wherever we were and that made life so easy. All the kids are good about adapting their sleep to the situation. I’m also terrible at eating dinner at the same time every night. I don’t often leave myself enough time to cook and we get behind, which is probably what is throwing our bedtime schedule off. I need to get better at it. As far as the day goes, life is so much easier for me and my 4 small children, if I just stay home most of the time. The baby can nap and I don’t have to worry about the stress of going out with them. We just go to and from the school most of the time. When we’re not in school, I do take them on outings, but maybe once a week. And as a family we often go out on Saturday afternoons, after Geneva’s nap. I don’t feel trapped most of the time, except when Denver’s out of town for work. Then I do everything in my power to get them to bed early so I can relax! :)

kara - March 1, 2012 - 1:43 pm

Wendy,
It is an interesting combination with my kids ages, because I feel like Sofia and Gabe are okay with having their routine shaken up a little more, but the baby falls apart. I think a few more years from now, and it won’t feel so intense.
Kim,
Sounds like you have a lot of great routines going on. Baby Wise was personally not for me and my style (I didn’t like the idea of putting tiny babies on a schedule… I like following their lead at that age), but I know that plenty of parents are happy with it. That is great that you and your hubby both do bedtime so she is equally used to both of you doing it!
Katrina,
I might make you stir up your routine a little bit to come and hang out in Corvallis in the summer when the weather is nice :).
Adrienne,
I’m sure that the more kids you add, the harder it is to have a consistent schedule, because their is probably more unexpected. I agree that staying home more makes life easier. I am a social go go go kind of gal, so it has been so nice for me to be at home more and just be more low key.

Gabe

When my dad was here last week visiting, he commented on how much Gabe is maturing. Gabe really has matured and seems so big now. ┬áHere is what Gabe is up to. *He switched preschools so that Chris can drop him off at the preschool at CHS right when he goes to work. It is […]

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kara - February 26, 2012 - 7:42 pm

I love Gabe!

Kelsey - February 26, 2012 - 8:28 pm

I like the Dalmatian proposal

Adrienne W - February 27, 2012 - 8:36 am

I love the updates! It’s so nice to some out on the other side of some stages in parenting! It’s so rewarding. I agree with Gabe- you don’t need 101 dalmations!

kara - February 27, 2012 - 7:47 pm

Kelsey,
If we get some, we will be sure to send some your way :).
Adrienne,
It is so nice to be at a more chill stage with him right now. It may not last long, so I will get some rest and enjoy :)

Miriamberry

Is that not the cutest little face that you’ve ever seen?? We somehow forgot Miriam’s jacket, so we had to make do with Gabe’s vest. It’s time to do kid updates. ┬áMy baby is not really a baby any more. She is in that in between stage where she isn’t really a baby anymore but […]

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Rachel - February 22, 2012 - 11:40 am

She is getting more beautiful and more expressive all of the time. Those eyes!

And very nice stats.

Adrienne W - February 27, 2012 - 8:34 am

What a sweetie! She’s beautiful. And I also think that 1 is a very trying age. Geneva is definitely into EVERYTHING!

kara - February 27, 2012 - 7:48 pm

Thanks ladies! Adrienne, I wish that Geneva and Miriam could play some day!!

Whitney Houston

This performance of the national anthem is flawless. I am usually not one to get emotional when a celebrity dies, but I have to admit that my heart aches a little thinking about Whitney Houston’s death. Such an amazing voice and presence. If you want to see Chris get teary eyed, watch him watch this […]

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EmmaJ - February 14, 2012 - 10:16 am

I love it! I love it with the big orchestra behind her.

Ingrid

Hello Friends. Anyone out there still? Yikes, my blog turned pathetic real fast. Life has been crazy lately, and something has to give right now, so unfortunately.. that thing has been blogging. Chris has more studio pictures of the kids on one of his memory cards, so whenever we track those down, there will be […]

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adrienne w - February 9, 2012 - 3:04 pm

So glad you’re back! I’ve missed you! That would be an amazing concert! I enjoy her, very much and I will have to check out ALL the songs you listed.