Gabe Update

If you know Gabe, then I am betting that these pictures made you smile. Gabe is such a little character. Here is the scoop on Gabe:

  • Gabe is still loving preschool. People who are close to Gabe sometimes call him Gabey Baby. He informed me today that he just wants to be called Gabe, not Gabey Baby… so take note friends.
  • Gabe is starting to be interested in writing letters, and he is still really into drawing and coloring.
  • Gabe is the best big brother. He follows Miriam around making sure that she doesn’t put things in her mouth, and he is always concerned about her and wants to be with her.
  • Gabe can have a really hard time with transitions . If you tell him it is time to leave the house, then cries and whines about leaving. Once you get to the place you were planning on going, then he has a hard time when he has to leave. He is also my persistent child. If he asks to watch a show and I say no, it is no problem for him to bust out some serious whining/crying for up to an ┬áhour. By the end of the hour I feel like whining and crying too. I know that persistence is a great characteristic to possess…. so I need to learn to help him channel it. Any tips from parents with persistent and intense kids?
  • Gabe is awesome at cleaning up. When we ask him to clean up his room or play room, he will work hard until it is finished. He also likes to help Chris work outside.
  • Gabe is going to be 4 next week, and we are looking forward to celebrating our little guy!
Karli - September 30, 2011 - 5:07 pm

He looks SO much like Chris!

For the whining – I have a couple very persistent children. We haven’t figured out a way to stamp it out completely, but we have made progress. When a decision is made (by me), and the whining begins, (usually “why?!” or “why not?!”) I make sure to explain my reasoning to the best of my ability (which at times means, “because I just don’t want to right now.”). Once I feel I have given them a fair explanation, and the whining continues, I generally say, “I’ve given you my answer. It’s not going to change. If you continue whining, there will be consequences.” And if it continues, I impose those consequences (in our house, they lose tickets). That, of course, elevates the whining into a tantrum, but after a few rounds of that happening, they are starting to learn that I’m serious about the whining and it often subsides.

kara - October 1, 2011 - 10:10 pm

Love your feedback. This is my problem. I really usually am good at being calm at first and matter of fact, but after 1/2 hour, I start getting really upset. I need to be more creative with consequences. When I put him in his room, he screams his head off for a long time. Taking away his show for the day makes him mad…I need to try that more. What are examples of consequences you use??