You know you need a break when……..

You are jealous of your sick husband, because he is laying around and resting. Chris’ back was hurting really bad yesterday after a ton of photo shoots last week, so he has been laying down, not holding kids, and trying not to move a lot. These are all things that someone with a sore back should be doing, so why am I jealous? I definitely am very appreciative of my health and and in no way want a sore back (or for my husband to have a sore back), but I just like the idea of having a day to lay around and read with no kid responsibilities. I really am sorry Chris that I haven’t been more understanding and kind about your injury… I know it sucks (and that I could be more sensitive), but when one spouse isn’t feeling well, the other one naturally has a lot more to do. Chris usually does help a lot with the kids, so I really feel it when he isn’t able to. ┬áLast night I was trying to get the kids ready for bed, bathe Miriam, and clean the house all at once when Chris yelled from the bathroom that he needed me to get him some toilet paper. “No,” I yelled from downstairs, but then I had to laugh to myself. Was I really going to leave him stranded? Obviously not, but I just didn’t want to do one more thing for one more person in that moment.

Am I crazy? (Maybe I don’t want the answer to that question) Since I am quite fond of my good health, I think that instead of having a real sick day, I may have to fake it one day. Unfortunately, I’m not a very good actress, so that may not get me very far. I guess that I am realizing that we mamas don’t really get sick days, even when we are sick. I love being a mom, but warning to those without kids…. being a mom is hardest thing you will do. It is amazing and awesome, but yes, it is hard. Anyone else want to have a “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off” kind of day with me sometime :)?

Amanda - October 3, 2011 - 10:11 pm

If you are crazy, then I am right there with you! Curt had knee surgery a couple of weeks ago, and I have been SO envious of all of the time that he gets to spend on the sofa, watching TV and getting food and drinks delivered. He’s been hobbling around and trying to help out as much as he can – such a wonderful man – but I was really surprised by how badly I wanted that same break.

Wendy M. - October 4, 2011 - 6:39 am

I also have a hard time being really gracious when Darin is sick and I’m stuck with all the responsibility. I get very martyr-ish. What’s worse is he is so kind to me when I’m sick!
I think the idea of having a day off sounds nice, but I’m too type-A to lie down while there is work to be done. My best bet is getting a day out- if I’m out of the house, I can relax because there isn’t any cleaning I can do.
Nice to know others struggle with this issue! :-)

adrienne w - October 4, 2011 - 8:26 am

I’m with you, sista! When are we going to plan that mama get away?! I’m serious. You tell me when you are done nursing and we’ll plan it.

Karli - October 4, 2011 - 9:02 am

I’m in… I had my mental meltdown about a week ago. Darn those awesome involved husbands who help out so much that we don’t know how to function when they can’t! Make sure you call me up for the Ferris Bueller day… I’ll fake whatever illness necessary!

kara - October 5, 2011 - 4:31 pm

Amanda,
I think you nailed it. It’s not that I don’t want him to relax… it’s just hard to watch them relax while their is chaos and still a million things to do… and whether or not they should be laying down…. it just stinks to watch them when you feel so busy and overwhelmed :).
Wendy,
Martyr-ish is exactly how I become!
Adrienne,
As soon as I am done nursing…. I am seriously going to coordinate a girls weekend with you!!
Karli,
A day to Portland w/out kids is exactly the kind of “Ferris Bueller’s day off” that I will be looking for!