Since I have had Miriam, I have had several people tell me that I never answer my phone and that I am hard to get a hold of. Okay, if I am honest, people told me this before I had her, but I hear it more often now. In case you were wondering, here are some of my excuses for not picking up:

  1. I am tending to kids a lot of the day. I am in “the middle of something” lots of the day. I am nursing, changing diapers, wiping bums, cooking, cleaning etc…
  2. After doing all of the things mentioned above, I am usually tired and not always in the mood to chat.
  3. This is actually a huge reason of why I never answer my phone. I can never find it when it rings, and by the time I find it.. it is too late. Yes, I know that our home phone should always end up on the charger after each call, but  that rarely ever happens.
  4. I usually don’t screen calls at all, but if I do it is just because I know the person calling will want to chat for a long time, and I know that I don’t have a long time to dedicate at that time. I would rather call back when I have more time so I don’t have to cut them off after they have been talking for 1 minute to tell them that it isn’t a good time.
  5. If I have guests at my house, I usually don’t answer the phone unless it is a call I am expecting or really need to take. I want to be present with the person I am with, and I think it is a tad on the rude side when you are with someone and they start carrying on a long phone conversation with someone that they can talk to any time.
  6. I do not text, and I sort of like it that way. I don’t want people to expect for me to get back to them within 10 minutes of them trying to get ahold of me.I have seen people literally sit and not move, waiting for a reply to a text they sent. I like to be a good friend, but I don’t want an expectation like I have to get back to someone the second that they call me and leave a message.

Okay, that is the end. I realize that I could try a little harder to get to the phone sometimes, but if you are someone who calls me often,know that I still care about you even if I don’t pick up the phone every time you call!


EmmaJ - March 31, 2011 - 4:49 am

I hear the same complaints about not answering my phone and most of my reasons are the same as yours. We don’t have a home phone and I lost my cell phone somewhere in the house 2 days ago, and besides missing my Tetris game that is on it, I am doing just fine without it.

Missy - March 31, 2011 - 12:57 pm

I could literally copy and paste this into an email and send it to my family and most of my friends who wonder why I don’t answer the phone. Glad to see I’m not alone. :)

kara - March 31, 2011 - 1:18 pm

Glad to hear there are people like me. The only problem is when two non phone people are friends… then it can be complicated to get a hold of each other. Actually Missy, it is funny, because we usually just email each other. I like that, because I can answer really quick when I have a free minute.

Rachel - April 2, 2011 - 9:38 pm

My husband was a PK and when you are a pastor, the church basically thinks they can call or drop by 24/7 and you should drop everything and attend to them. Needless to say, my husband grew up VERY resentful of phone calls and drop ins that interrupted family activities. The worst was when we would go out to dinner as an extended family and people would just walk up to the table and carry on extended conversations about whever they felt like sharing–totally not concerned they were interrupting family time.

SO, in our house, we don’t answer the phone, and sometimes not even the door, unless we are literally doing NOTHING. I would never dream of answering the phone during dinner or even play time with Seamus. That is what voicemail is for….

On another topic, whenever I see a member of the clergy out with his family, I politely say hi and then move on. I don’t ever try to have a conversation with them because I feel for children who just want time with their parents.

Okay, off my soapbox.

Rachel - April 2, 2011 - 9:41 pm

One more thing…
I also start every phone call that I make with, “Is this a good time to talk?” I think it gives people an “out” so they can say they are busy and ask me to call later.

kara - April 4, 2011 - 10:17 pm

If you call me and I DO answer, you won’t have to ask if it is a good time, because the fact that I am answering shows that it is :).