I am assuming that you all have seen this cover? I have heard moms talking about it all over since it came out over a week ago. Pretty much everyone I have talked to has had a pretty strong opinion of some sort, so since this is my blog, it’s my turn to share what I think:
I didn’t like the cover very much at all.
- Nursing with a kid on a chair… really? Don’t most people sit when they nurse?
- I do not love the hot mom posing with her hands on her hips. Breasts are so sexualized, and it has been the work of advocates and mamas everywhere to inform people that breasts were made first and foremost for nursing.
- I wish they would have shown a picture of beautiful bonding taking place, but I realize that beautiful bonding doesn’t sell or spark quite as much controversy as what they did.
- I am actually not that bothered by the idea of the 3 year old being nursed. It most definitely isn’t for me, but to each their own.
- I really dislike “Are You Mom Enough?” It just sets people up to be offended.
Did any of you actually read the article? I read most of it, and it bugged me. They painted a picture of all parents who practice attachment parenting being wacky who think that their children are the center of the universe. They made it seem like all Attachment Parents nurse their kids until they are 4 and have no lives besides their children.
The truth is, that as with any parenting style/practice, there is a huge spectrum of how people practice attachment parenting. I live in a community where attachment parenting is very popular and common. I would say that we have practiced Attachment-ish parenting with all 3 kids, and her is why:
*I nursed Sofia for 18 months, Gabe for 20 months, and I am currently weaning Miriam at 16 months (more details on that in a different post). In most parts of the country, that probably seems like a really long time (some would say too long and I’m sure that others would say too short), but I have felt really good about the amount of time that I have nursed my kids.
*I am really into baby wearing. At 16 months, it is uncommon for a day to go by without Chris or I wearing Miriam in the carrier. With 3 kids, I honestly don’t understand how anyone could get by without wearing their babies. It frees my hands to get more done around the house, help with the other kids, and it makes grocery shopping so much easier with her on my back. I was semi-joking with a friend the other day that when I am done with the Ergo, I am going to have it gold plated and framed in my house. I probably won’t do that, but it will be hard to get rid of something that has so many beautiful memories associated with it.
*We have slept with all 3 of our babies (0r had them in the cosleeper next to us). It is funny that each kid was kicked out of bed progressively earlier than the one before. I think that Sofia slept with/near us for 14 months, Gabe 11 months, and Miriam 9 months. I love sleeping with my babies when they are little, but with each kid, it’s like I almost go from loving it to not within weeks, and then I know that it is time to make the transition.
*I don’t agree with everything that Dr Sears says, but I really do like him overall. I think that it is good to questions mainstream parenting sometimes, and he definitely does that. He is all about strong attachment and bonding with parent/baby, and research has shown how important development is in the first few years of life. Baby/toddler brains are growing so freaking fast and forming so many synapses… why not help form those synapse connections with lots of love and bonding? Babies progress and grow a lot more interacting with and being loved on by parents than they do being put in an exosaucer all day. (Not saying that those are bad at all….all things in moderation my friends).
So my questions for you all:
*Is Attachment Parenting commonly practiced where you live?
*What did you think about the cover? I am totally fine if your opinion differs than mine. I know that you are all wonderful mamas and that there is not one good way to parent.
*What do you think about Dr. Sears? Have you read his stuff?